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Robert J. Durst II is Chair of the Divorce Group of Stark & Stark. He limits his practice to substantial matrimonial and custody matters.Mr. Durst is certified by the New Jersey Supreme Court as a Matrimonial Attorney and by the National Board of Trial Advocacy as a Civil Trial Attorney.Mr. Durst has is a frequent lecturer on Family Law topics, was a Co-Founder of the New Jersey Summer Family Law Institute and is currently the Co Director of the American Trial Lawyers annual Boardwalk Seminar on Family Law. His leading lectures include a nationally known presentation on the distribution of stock options in a divorce, the use and distribution of life insurance in divorce cases and an original series on evidence in divorce cases.


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Pre-Owned and Inherited Assets

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The issue of pre-owned assets frequently arises in divorces involving persons who were married later in life or second marriages.  If one or both of the parties have accumulated assets prior to their marriage, very difficult issues often arise as to how those assets should be treated in the event of a divorce.
   

Although this article will not specifically discuss Prenuptial Agreements, the best advice to be given to any person who own significant assets at the time of their marriage, is to negotiate and properly execute a Prenuptial Agreement.
   

The Prenuptial Agreement should specifically itemize the pre-owned assets by description, estimated value, account number or other clear and unequivocal identification.  The Agreement should then define not only the intended distribution of such assets in the event of a divorce, but the distribution of any increase in value and whether or not either or both of the parties should receive credit for maintaining or paying the carrying costs such as mortgage payments or taxes for a pre-owned asset.
   

However, in those cases in which the parties do not negotiate and enter into a Prenuptial Agreement, the distribution of pre-owned assets can become a complex issue in the event of a divorce.
   

The general rule is that only assets which are “acquired” during the marriage are subject to distribution at the time of the divorce.  By definition, assets which were owned prior to the marriage are not “acquired” during the marriage and are, therefore, not subject to marital distribution.
   

The starting point for any analysis of pre-owned assets is to develop a balance sheet of the assets which either or both parties owned at the time of the divorce and, to the extent possible, from account statements, IRA or 401(k) account statements, pension statement or real estate tax records establish a value of the asset as of the date of the marriage.
   

Unfortunately, however, as with any general rule, there are often more exceptions to the rule than there are consistencies in its application.
   

One of the most frequently encountered exceptions is when one or both of the parties transfer pre-owned assets from their individual names subsequent to the marriage.  Many people make such transfers for tax claiming purposes, estate planning purposes or sometimes simply in order to have control over the asset in the event of the other party’s disability.
   

While the transfer of a pre-owned asset from individual to joint names may be appropriate for any of these purposes, it may also have very significant consequences in the event of a divorce.  In most instances, the law will find that there was a “transmutation” of the asset from an individual pre-owned asset which would be exempt from marital distribution into a marital asset.  It is presumed that the person making the transfer intended the other person to have a joint interest in the asset and it is further presumed that the person making the transfer understood that by doing so, the asset would become subject to marital distribution in the event of a divorce.  Although rebuttable, these presumptions are very difficult to overcome at the time of a subsequent divorce and any time a pre-owned, individually titled or owned asset is to be transferred into joint names, serious consideration must be given to the impact which such transfer would have upon that asset in the event of a divorce.
   

Further problems arise when the pre-owned asset increases in value during the marriage.  For example, a home which is owned by one of the parties at the time of the marriage may significantly increase in value over the several years of the marriage.  Similarly, a business owned by one of the parties at the time of the marriage may increase in value during the marriage.  Or, something as simple as an IRA account, a brokerage account or a bank deposit may increase in value over the course of the marriage. 
  

Any time there is an increase in the value of the asset, the increase in value must be analyzed from several perspectives. 
   

First, was the increase as a result of additional contributions to the account or, in the case of real estate, improvements to the property.  If so, such added contributions or improvements would be “acquired” during the marriage and would be subject to marital distribution in the event of a divorce.
   

On the other hand, if the asset has increased in value without added investment, contributions or improvements, the increase must be analyzed as to whether it is “active” or “passive.”  “Active,” generally speaking, means that the increase was as a result of work effort or management by one or the other of the parties.  “Passive” means that the increase in value has been simply as a result of market forces or inflation.
   

For example, a simple brokerage account which was not traded, but yet increased dramatically due to market force would probably be a “passive” increase.  On the other hand, if the account was actively managed, traded and controlled by one or the other of parties, and the increase in value could be traced to that party’s trading or management decision, the increase would likely be “active.”
   

In the case of most small businesses or professional practices, the increase in value is almost always attributed to work efforts of one of the parties.  In the case of real estate, an increase in value may be a combination of inflation and market factors or as a result of the party’s maintenance, improvement or upgrades to the property.
   

Obviously, it is very difficult to accurately and precisely separate the amount of increase which is “active” versus that portion of the increase which is “passive.” 
   

Issues arise such as How much did the home increase in value because the parties remodeled the bathroom versus how much the increase is simply attributed to an increase in the value of real estate in general.
   

Unfortunately, the difficulty in analyzing and distributing pre-owned assets and/or their increase in value does not end simply with this complicated scenario. 
   

Once it is determined that some portion of the increase was “active,” you must then determine which of the parties actively contributed to the increase in value.  If it was the spouse who owned the assets efforts which contributed to increase in value, the increased value is going to be distributed much differently than if it were the active efforts of the non-owning spouse.
   

Very often, even determining the amount of the increase is simply a matter of expert opinion as opposed to hard and fast figures.  If, for example, a property or a business has been owned for several years, in order to determine the amount of increase in value, someone has to appraise that property as it existed several years earlier.  It is, at best, a difficult proposition to go back in time, analyze comparable sales or comparable businesses as they may have existed several years earlier and then to extrapolate that data into a valid value which can be used for the purposes of determining the amount of increase in value.
  

All of this simply brings us a full circle to the subject of Prenuptial Agreements.  All of this difficulty, the sometimes subjective determination as to whether the increase in value is “active” or “passive” and the difficulty of conducting appraisals several years in the past can be avoided by the arms-length negotiation and execution of Prenuptial Agreement prior to the marriage.
   

In addition to prior owned assets, the subject of inherited assets often comes into play at the time of a divorce.
  

One or both of the parties may have inherited assets during the marriage.  If so, by New Jersey Statute, inherited assets are exempt from marital distribution and remain the property of the person who inherited them. 
   

However, as with pre-owned assets and their increase in value, there are a number of exceptions and complications in the practical application of that seemingly simple rule.  Suppose, for example, a party inherits money which they, in turn, invest in improvements to jointly owned real estate.  Or, suppose that one of the parties inherits money which the couple uses to pay down debt during the marriage thereby allowing their income to be used more fully for investment into a small business or improvements to their real estate.
   

Again, as a general rule, the principals of “transmutation” apply to inherited assets.  If a person inherits money or assets which they then title in joint names or invest into a jointly owned asset, it would usually be assumed that they intended those funds to become marital property and that the exempt nature of the inherited asset has been “transmuted” into jointly owned marital assets which will be distributed between the parties at the time of a divorce.  Therefore, whenever any married person inherits money or assets, it is important for that person to make their own individual decision as to whether they intend for those funds or assets to become marital property or whether they intend that they should continue to be individually owned, exempt from distribution in the event of a divorce and remain their sole property in the event of a divorce.  Whichever alternative a person chooses, care must be taken in defining the form and nature of the ownership of the assets after the inheritance.
   

A final and often overlooked consideration regarding pre-owned or inherited assets is a provision in the general equitable distribution statute which provides that the “source” of the funds or assets is a relevant factor in the determination as to the distribution of that asset in the event of a divorce.  Therefore, even though an asset may be “transmuted” from an individual prior owned or inherited asset into a marital asset, the fact that the “source” of the asset as it existed at the time of the divorce was initially a pre-owned or inherited asset may significantly impact the percentage of distribution which each party receives at the time of the divorce.  There is a reported case in New Jersey where a person’s pre-owned small business significantly appreciated during the marriage and, admittedly, appreciated as a result of “active” (i.e., the work efforts) of both parties during the marriage, therefore, the “active” increase in value of the asset was a marital asset and was subject to equitable distribution at the time of their divorce.  The Trial Court, however, awarded the non-owner spouse only 10% of the increased value of the asset.
   

In summary, pre-owned assets, inherited assets and/or their increase in value during the marriage are complicated and difficult issues.  The best advice to any person owning significant premarital assets is to enter into a Prenuptial Agreement.  In addition, whenever married parties are given tax, estate planning or other advice concerning the form of ownership, the unpleasant subject of what may occur in the event of a divorce must be considered. 
   

Finally, in the event of an inheritance during the marriage, the parties must be aware of and consider the impact and various alternatives concerning the form of ownership, maintenance or control of that asset during the marriage and the impact which those various forms of ownership or control may have at the time of a divorce.

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 9

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.


This is the ninth and final installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss counsel fees. This podcast will address the considerations that are taken into account when determining who will have to pay counsel fees.


You can download Installment #9 here. (4.3 MB)


Installment 9 Show Notes (PDF)

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Domestic Violence Victim - Change of Name

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In The Application of EFG to Assume a New Name (decided by the New Jersey Appellate Division on March 17, 2008) the Appellate Court ruled that a victim of domestic violence who wished to change her name was not required to publish her new name and that the Court records of the name change could be sealed.

Ordinarily a person who has changed their name is required to publish notice of the new name as public notice to creditors or other interested parties.

The Court records of a name change are generally not sealed, and are open, public records.
In EFG the party changing her name, a victim of prior domestic violence,  asked that it not be published and that the records be sealed in order to protect her new identity from the perpetrator of the abuse.

The Trial Court originally ruled that it had no authority to abrogate the publication requirement or to seal the records.

On appeal, the Appellate Court held that under the circumstances, the victim's right to protect herself and her  identity justified waiving the publication requirement and sealing the records.
Victims rights advocates hail the decision as a step forward in protecting victims of domestic violence. Creditors ' attorneys and advocates of open public hearings criticize the decision as adversely affecting their rights.

In balance, it would seem that the Appellate Court made a courageous and correct decision which will allow future Courts to enter fair and appropriate rulings on a case by case basis.

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 8

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the eighth installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss medical and life insurance coverage. The podcast will address how to change the beneficiary of your life or medical insurance, as well as how to maintain your insurance after the divorce settlement is finalized.

You can download installment #8 here. (4.2 MB)

Installment 8 Show Notes (PDF)

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 7

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the seventh installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss social security and pension benefits. This podcast will include a discussion on the differences between social security and pension benefits, and what you can expect to incur when facing these issues during the determination of your divorce agreement.

You can download installment #7 here (4 MB)

Installment 7 Show Notes (PDF)

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The Basics of Custody

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The custody arrangement for minor children is often the most important issue in a divorce. There are, of course, cases in which one of the parents has abandoned their parental responsibilities,  suffers from various addictions, suffers from a significant mental or emotional condition or are otherwise unfit to assume either physical or legal custody.   In such cases, the specific facts must be carefully analyzed, and it may be that one party should have limited parental rights, supervised visitation or that the circumstances may even require a Parenting Coordinator.
   

Supervised visitation means that a person cannot be in the presence of their child without appropriate adult supervision.
   

A Parenting Coordinator is utilized to facilitate decision making when the parents are incapable of doing so themselves. 
   

These alternatives should be used only when absolutely necessary and only as solutions of last resort. 
   

Absent such extenuating circumstances, New Jersey law regarding custody of children can be summarized in the simple principle that the parenting arrangement must be in “the best interest of the child.”   Notice that the operative words are “in the best interest of the child”; not necessarily the best interest of either or both parents. 
   

Whatever the parenting arrangement, it must address two basic areas of responsibility:  physical and legal custody. 
   

Physical custody determines where the child will reside, how many days with each parent and at what times: weekdays, weekends, holidays and vacation periods.
   

Legal custody involves decision making regarding the child.  Decisions such as elective medical care, religious training, schooling decisions and extra curricular activities are the typical  discretionary decisions which are a part of legal custody.
   

In order to determine what parenting arrangement is “in the best interest of the children,” the Court must apply specific statutory criteria. Those criteria include:
     (a) a parent’s ability to agree, communicate and cooperate in matters relating to the child;
     (b) a parent’s willingness to accept custody of the child;
     (c) any unwillingness on the part of either party to allow visitation or contact with the child with
     the other parent;
     (d) the relationship of the child with the parent;
     (e) any history of domestic violence;
     (f) the safety of the child;
     (g) the preference of the child, when the child is of sufficient age so as to form an intelligent
     decision;
     (h) the needs of the child;
     (i) the stability of the home environments of the respective parents;
     (j) the quality and continuity of the child’s education;
     (k) the fitness of the parent;
     (l) the geographic proximity of the parents’ home;
     (m) the extent and quality of time that each parent spent with the child either prior to or
     subsequent to this separation of the parties;
     (n) each parent’s employment responsibilities;
     (o) the age and number of children.
   

In most cases, the Courts make every effort to maintain a continuing relationship between each parent and the child.  The Court will attempt to craft a physical custody arrangement whereby each of the parents will enjoy meaningful parenting time with the child at regular intervals and a legal custody which allows both of them to participate in the decision making responsibility for the child.     

There are many books discussing the impact of divorce upon children and the theories espoused in such books are as numerous as the books themselves.  However, there is one common theme in almost all of the reliable literature:  the greater the conflict between the parents, the more the negative the impact of the divorce will be upon the child.
   

Psychological studies show that there are certain types of parental behavior which almost always adversely affect children.  Such behavior should be recognized by both parents and each should avoid falling into such behavioral patterns regardless of their reason for doing so. Such behavior includes:   
    •    Denigrating or criticizing of your spouse in the presence of your children;
    •    Seeking to make your child your ally or confidant;
    •    Involving your child in any decision making regarding your divorce;
    •    Engaging in verbal or physical confrontation with your spouse in the presence of your children;
    •    Using your child as messenger between you and your spouse.
   

It is very often extremely difficult to fully remove the children from the emotions, hard feelings and, sometimes, the animosity which develop between the parents during a divorce.  Short sighted parents often take misguided comfort in the fact that their children are maintaining a better relationship with them than with their estranged spouse.
  

 It is, to some degree, understandable that a parent who is experiencing the loss of their spouse and the end of their marriage, takes some solace in the allegiance of their children.  Expert after expert, text after text and experience after experience, however, have shown that the involvement of the children in the emotional aspects of their parent’s divorce seldom inures to the long term benefit of the children or their relationship with either parent.  The children, no matter what their age, should be assured that the divorce is not their fault and should be told, by actions and example, that they are free to maintain a relationship with both parents.  They should not be made to feel that showing love or loyalty to one parent is a betrayal of the other and they should not be made to feel that the showing of love to the parent is necessarily an endorsement of that parent’s behavior or a condemnation of the other parent’s behavior.
   

No matter what financial results the divorce may be or no matter how indignant one or the other of the party’s feeling are regarding the divorce, the best interests of the children will be better served by maintaining as good a parent child relationship as is possible.

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 6

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the sixth installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss equitable distribution. This podcast will address how equitable is determined through a discussion of marital assets and liabilities at the time of your divorce. This podcast will also give you an outline of the procedures used to create an equitable distribution format.

You can download installment #6 here. (8.3 MB)

Installment 6 Show Notes (PDF)

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 5

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the fifth installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss alimony. The podcast will address the factors that are considered in determine alimony, a discussion on the differences between alimony and child support, and the ability to modify an alimony payment.

You can download installment #5 here. (5.9 MB)

Installment 5 Show Notes (PDF)

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 4

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the fourth installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss the payment of college expenses for a child. The podcast will address the determining factors of college expenses such as the amount of contribution being sought, the ability of each parent to pay the anticipated amount, and the financial resources of the child.

You can download installment #4 here. (5.1 MB)

Installment 4 Show Notes
(PDF)

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law - # 3

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DurstNotes on Divorce Law is a nine part podcast series, and is part of the Divorce Law Podcast with Robert J. Durst, Shareholder and Chair of Stark & Stark's Divorce Law Group. DurstNotes on Divorce Law podcast series is designed to give you a brief overview of the several most common areas of divorce law, enabling you to better understand your divorce and the law.

This is the third installment of DurstNotes on Divorce Law, and will discuss the emancipation of a child. This podcast will address state regulations and the exceptions to these regulations, what factors are considered when emancipation is an option, and how a family's lifestyle can determine whether or not emancipation is the best option for the child.

You can download installment #3 here. (4.5 MB)

Installment 3 Show Notes (PDF)

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